The Challenges During COVID

BANANA MAN

I had just finished performing in Montreal and Ottawa and was preparing for my COURAGE TOUR. I would present in Bermuda, Calgary, Edmonton, Alberta, and Edinburgh, Scotland. Then, BAM! All schools were shut down due to the COVID-19 virus. All my presentations and after-school programs were cancelled. Now what?
I tried my hand at a podcast and worked on an e-book. I structured my day with eight-kilometre walks, played guitar, and worked on Kids 4 Kids projects. A month into the pandemic, I had to decide whether to take the emergency money the government was handing out or apply for a job. I decided to apply for a part-time job. I wanted to serve my community and find a way of helping out. I applied to a grocery store and a big box store but leaned toward the grocery store because it was a better fit. It was a health food store aligned with Kids 4 Kids values. I went to the big box store interview and in four hours received word that I got the job. I hadn’t heard from the grocery store but hoped to hear soon. I had 24 hours to decide whether I wanted the job at the big box store. Luckily, I received the grocery store job.
I had never worked as a grocer, so I had yet to learn what I was in store for. After two days of lifting banana boxes and hauling fruit and vegetables through the store, I thought I was done. I was almost in tears after a few shifts, and I was not used to the physical aspects of the job. I am not a quitter, so I pushed forward. Most days, I felt incredibly dumb. I found it challenging to print labels, attach labels, identify strange fruits and vegetables, work for the community, and understand the aisle ownership and aisle facing. There were so many little things to learn. As time passed, I started to build stamina and handle the physical aspect of the job. I learned about the different types of vegetables, the difference between organic and grain-fed, and vegan versus vegetarian.
During the time I spent as a grocer, I found my birth mother. I also found out my father’s name was Sandy Dingwall. My name would have been Marti Dingwall. This coincided with a banana incident. For two months, I put the yellow bananas with the yellow ones. I didn’t realize organic, free trade, fair trade, and plantains are not even bananas. So many bananas. So, I made up Marti Dingwall, a banana man who will become the main character in a new story.

During the COVID experience, I learned so much about myself. I knew that I was not a quitter. I learned the importance of a positive attitude and that people work very hard for very little. The experience humbled me and helped me appreciate my incredible opportunities and adventures.

During my first few weeks at the grocery store, I received a request to be interviewed by Dianna Buckner, the host of Dragon’s Den, who also wrote for CBC. She was doing an article about entrepreneurs who had successful businesses who worked as grocers. What could it hurt? I didn’t think anyone would see it anyway. I was wrong. As soon as it was published, I received a message from Toronto and Texas, who had read the article. I also received a seething comment on LINKEDIN from someone who angrily told me I shouldn’t have taken a job from someone who needed it. How did she know I didn’t need it? The day after the article was printed, my manager at the grocery store commented on seeing the article. In the article, Dianne published how much money my company made. She wanted to convey that I went from making money to working for minimum wage. I think I learned my lesson, not to be so willing to speak to the media.

MARTI DINGWALL

In 1962, I was adopted by Bill and Isabel Graham, who emigrated from Perth, Scotland, in 1958 to Montreal, Quebec, Canada. I had always wondered about who my birth mother and father were and fabricated stories about how Rod Steward was probably my father. I did look like Rod and loved music, so I thought it was a perfect fit. In 2017, I decided to see if I could find information on my birth mother using Ancestry.ca. I found a third cousin who lived in Australia who was interested in helping me find my birth mother. I also went to Scotland and collected information about my adoption from the Edinburgh Registrar. The information I found led me up to Inverness, where I found my birth mother’s childhood home.

In May 2020, I was contacted by a birth aunt who knew my birth mother. She received my contact information through my third cousin’s connection in Australia. All the pieces started to come together. Here is what I found out:

My birth mother, Irene Elizabeth Calder, was forced to give me up by her father, Benjamin Calder. My understanding was that Ben’s wife died, and he got remarried. He struggled with alcohol and was not supportive of Irene. The man who helped conceive me was Sandy Dingwall. I believe she was my mother’s boyfriend. They were not married. My mother was sent from Inverness to Dundee to give birth to me, where she had to give me up for adoption. She returned to Inverness and was not to speak about it.

My birth mother eventually married Paul Penberthy and moved to Ireland. Her marriage failed, forcing her to return to Inverness. Her sisters moved to Florida, where Irene followed. She eventually moved up to Minneapolis, Minnesota. Giving me up for adoption was devastating to Irene. She never had any other children.

I found my birth father’s obituary. He had just passed away, too. He had three daughters: Alison, Yvonne, and Karen. My birth name is Martin Alexander Calder. (Sandy is short for Alexander). I would have been Marti Dingwall. I may have been the recipient of a few wedgies with that name.

DINGWALL – Peacefully, on Friday, 2nd August 2019, shortly after admission to Raigmore Hospital, Alexander Dingwall (Sandy), 1 Hilton Avenue, Inverness, aged 79 years. Former motor mechanic. Beloved husband of the late Christine, dearly loved father of Alison, Yvonne, Karen and the late Sandy, dear father-in-law, special grandad, great-grandad and a very good friend of many. The funeral service will be in Inverness Crematorium on Friday, 16th August 2019, at 2 pm. All welcome. Donations invited for Alzheimer Scotland may be given at the service or forwarded to William T. Fraser and Son, Culduthel Road, Inverness.

I received an email from my second cousin, Debra McFadden, who knew my birth mother and informed me that my birth mother had died a month ago. It was devastating news, especially when I was close to having met Irene. I am still receiving photos and family history that is very informative. This part of my story exemplifies what can happen when you push through inhibitions and fear and pursue adventure. I now have a brand new family who has welcomed me home.

THE VIDEOS

I need to be productive and feel a sense of accomplishment. COVID was impeding my ability to grow my business. I couldn’t offer Kids 4 Kids after-school programs; I no longer performed in schools or toured Canada and the UK. I needed to fight forward. I decided to produce a leadership and anti-bullying video, finish two ebooks and develop a new website for my presentations. It was a risk, as the cost for this project would be close to thirty thousand dollars. I contacted my friend, Adam, who owns Atomic Spark and got the ball rolling. I got Sarah Blackwood from the band Walk Off the Earth and Rick Campanelli from ET Canada involved in the project. I contacted a company called Design Thinking to create my website. They knew my friend Adam from Atomic Spark.  Adam knew the Red Green Show producer, who joined the team as a consultant. The team was formed.

We filmed the videos at the Sanderson Centre in Brantford and my camp in Burlington. I was fortunate to have footage from a presentation I did at a school in Brantford before COVID-19. The videos turned out great, as did the website. I was also happy to have finished the e-books. I was ready to present my leadership anti-bullying presentations, with additional resources available for schools.

VIRTUAL PRESENTATIONS

I wasn’t able to present at school, but how about virtually? I wasn’t sure how I would like this style of presentation. My shows are interactive, and I love meeting the students and teachers in person. What would it be like to present in front of a computer? I received several school requests for virtual presentations, so I tried it. My first presentation was at St. John Catholic School in Guelph, Ontario. I presented to students in kindergarten up to grade 8. I was surprised. It wasn’t as bad as I thought. Then, a school from just north of Calgary, Alberta, purchased my videos. The response was excellent. I did a presentation for a parent group in Burlington, then off to Vancouver to present at Alexander’s Academy and the Vancouver YMCA. The YMCA presentation was challenging as it was scheduled for 7:00 pm Vancouver time, 10:00 pm my time. I was talking until midnight. 

I have been learning about how to create an interactive virtual presentation. I have bought multiple cameras, green screens and video switchers. When everything returns to normal, I will still prefer to present face to face; however, virtual presentations will offer an alternative to flying to remote communities and open opportunities worldwide.

FRONTLINE WORKER AS AN EDUCATIONAL ASSISTANT

I will find the good in whatever challenging situation comes my way. After being an essential worker in a grocery store, I decided to do what I do best: work with children. I struggle with most things; however, God’s given me the gift and passion to inspire children. So, now it’s moving from essential worker to frontline worker. I began as an educational assistant in the Waterloo and Halton Catholic School Boards. Every experience has the potential to be a learning experience. I worked with strong, compassionate individuals committed to helping students with special needs.